It's Love on the table

Let’s put love here on the table for a moment. Let’s measure it a little, weigh it,give it a sort of well-baby clinic check.

Let’s feel how it waters the deep need to be loved- a need without which there is nothing.

Maybe it’s already clear to you that something is missing for you.Something you feel without words.Not like the endless discussions about the trash someone didn’t take out for your the hug you didn’t receive.A deep and quiet lack. So here is a small clarifying question:

How clear is the connection between the way you speak to yourself,and the way others speak to you?And how clear is the connection between a mediocre-or-worse relationship and an inner love life full of conditions and lashings?

Is it clear to you how the neglect of your cuteness and brilliance

relates to a poor kind of love?

After 18 years of an non-nourishing relationship, and even worse than that, I was completely alone for two years.The company of men didn’t really seem like my direction.I licked my wounds and learned what my breath sounds like when I’m alone.

It was hard, quenching, and very intoxicating.I turned my world on its axis.

But at the end of those two years, I found my man, a man like whom I had never met before.The relationship, the family life, the life of love and friendship,

and also the sex that flowed into my life, are a wonder.

And this is not just a wonder, but a fruit.

The entire language of my love toward myself is reflected in a bright and dazzling way in the relationship with this sweet and noble man.

So yes, when I say that I teach unconditional joy of life,it’s not always clear how it’s connected, what it actually means.Well, teaching people the craft of self-love is the first step in teaching you how to create love with others.A love that is a center of healing and recovery for your whole collection of crippled and wounded beliefs.

A reminder of your phenomenal ability to heal and to heal others.Learning to give, learning to receive, learning to trust, learning to let go,learning to connect and to merge, these are essential crafts for a heart-expanding relationship.

If you don’t have one yet, or if it seems to you that what you have will never be able to thrive beyond the familiar,then you really should reconsider whom you’re listening to:

Your tired, skeptical, domineering mind that knows nothing at all about love,or your quiet and humble depth that knows what truth feels like.